tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post5194286264712853398..comments2024-03-18T05:14:45.515-04:00Comments on Life on Manitoulin: NaBloPoMo Day 7: Social Outings with KidsAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-18354835460462735102011-11-08T16:09:14.679-05:002011-11-08T16:09:14.679-05:00No, I dont' think parents should take their ki...No, I dont' think parents should take their kids to every socail outing. You and everyone commenting have hit all the main points. It depends on the child and on the occasion.Calfkeeperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12481855231233879731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-48780159832867167672011-11-08T01:23:19.902-05:002011-11-08T01:23:19.902-05:00thanks c - she's not perfect but she knew at a...thanks c - she's not perfect but she knew at an early age that begging/crying or throwing a tantrum wouldn't work, so she didn't do it.caninecolognehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07921983679558271352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-87364602751054381222011-11-07T23:04:47.813-05:002011-11-07T23:04:47.813-05:00Canine:
I had to laugh because I KNOW how you fe...Canine: <br />I had to laugh because I KNOW how you feel about this! LOL! I also know that your child is one of the most well-behaved, respectful kids I have EVER met!!! You guys have done well!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-67991006083275142172011-11-07T23:03:45.987-05:002011-11-07T23:03:45.987-05:00Steph:
You nailed it on the head. Make sure your k...Steph:<br />You nailed it on the head. Make sure your kids are fed and have had enough rest!!! Those are the two main reasons kids get crabby. If they're hungry or if they missed their nap (if they still nap), it makes a difference between a great experience in a social setting and a really crazy one.<br /><br />I've seen people drag their kids about and it's go-go-go all the time. The kids are tired, cranky, miserable, hungry, and then they have huge hissy fits and the parents don't understand why the kids are acting up. <br /><br />I'm not saying those are the only reasons. Those are just two. Most parents know how to read the signs and see what their kids need. Preventing a meltdown is much easier than dealing with one.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-80829968801790675132011-11-07T23:00:00.182-05:002011-11-07T23:00:00.182-05:00SmalltownOntario:
Love your name! I live in small ...SmalltownOntario:<br />Love your name! I live in small town Ontario too! lol Maybe not the same small town, but it's pretty small!<br /><br />Good idea about introducing kids to funerals early. We contemplated it. At the time, I wondered if it was something we should do. I'm the worst at funerals though. Can't hold myself together. I wouldn't know how to explain to a 2 year old why Mama is weeping uncontrollably. I was thinking maybe in another year or two when she can better understand what's going on.<br /><br />I agree with you though. It is a good idea for them to understand early on. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-16112533371419608702011-11-07T22:56:33.314-05:002011-11-07T22:56:33.314-05:00Chantal:
LOL! Noooooo! Totally wasn't talking ...Chantal:<br />LOL! Noooooo! Totally wasn't talking about your kids! Why? Are they temper tantrum throwers??Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-18692795645568573972011-11-07T22:41:44.737-05:002011-11-07T22:41:44.737-05:00hi c - i'm totally with you. i have a kid (11 ...hi c - i'm totally with you. i have a kid (11 yrs old now) myself and it still bothers me when i hear/see/have to be next to bratty ass kids. sorry if that makes me sound like some sort of @$$hole but that's the truth. some parents are inconsiderate and just let their demonspawn run amok. if your kid is distressed or crying at the movies, the theatre, church, restaurant, or whatever, please please please take them out of the building! (pulls out hair)<br /><br />i'm not that tolerant when parents don't take initiative to curb their kids' poor behaviors but most of the time, i bite my tongue or suppress my feelings because it's a friend's kid and i don't want to step on their toes about their shitty parenting skills. oops, did i say that? hahah.<br /><br />if it's a baby crying, it doesn't bother me that much becuase it's a baby and that's what they do. it's the temper tantrums that really bug me. my kid isn't perfect but i am so glad that she never had a meltdown in public because she knew it wouldn't fly with us.caninecolognehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07921983679558271352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-46960658931124013152011-11-07T15:58:22.335-05:002011-11-07T15:58:22.335-05:00I think that taking them to social events is fine,...I think that taking them to social events is fine, just understand that it is YOU who has to accommodate EVERYONE ELSE once your child starts acting up. If their needs aren't being met, they act up and you, as their parent, need to react and act on that. <br />There have been many occasions where we have had to leave a restaurant because one of our kids started acting up either because it was getting close to their bed time or the wait for the table was long and we didn't plan accordingly. <br />It's really simple - make sure they are fed, that they have had adequate rest and what they are about to go into isn't age appropriate for them. Would I take my kids to a cocktail party? Nope, they would be bored to tears. Would I take my kids to a play? Sure!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14342046781173259778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-40876234396276081002011-11-07T10:48:38.412-05:002011-11-07T10:48:38.412-05:00I agree with you about taking the children places....I agree with you about taking the children places... then taking them outside/hall when they can not take it any longer.<br />I always took my children to funerals. Then when it came time for a very close family member they understood what was going on. We have even taken our grandchildren to funerals and they where just babies.<br />It is great to hear what you do with your daughter. Keep up the good work!SmalltownOntariohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00734210255334738261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-4248497021185476282011-11-07T02:03:08.824-05:002011-11-07T02:03:08.824-05:00LOL! Oh, C! You're talking about MY kids! They...LOL! Oh, C! You're talking about MY kids! They are horrible. We know it too! We just can't control them.Chantalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-31879126882565042442011-11-07T02:01:10.624-05:002011-11-07T02:01:10.624-05:00Frau:
True, crying and fussing is definitely a par...Frau:<br />True, crying and fussing is definitely a part of life with kids. I'm totally with you on that.<br /><br />When it's babies that are crying, it doesn't bother me. <br /><br />The thing I have a hard time with is when people bring their kids out and they have full on meltdowns - you know the temper tantrum throwing, flailing arms and screaming at the top of one's lungs kind of meltdowns? <i><b>THAT</b></i> I just can't seem to stand. I don't know what it is, but is sets something off inside me that really makes me irritated. Then when the parents don't do anything about it (like ignore it, let them thrash themselves about all over the floor or furniture...), that just amazes me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-89111112986904431082011-11-07T01:50:37.251-05:002011-11-07T01:50:37.251-05:00Im embarrassed to say that in my 20s I hated heari...Im embarrassed to say that in my 20s I hated hearing kids fuss & cry just about anywhere I was. Of course after having stepkids & now my son I realize its pretty much a normal part of life & Im not so bothered by it. <br /><br />I also like having my son with me. I always wish for a break, a date night perhaps, but then on the rare occasion I get it I miss my boy TERRIBLY. Go figure. <br /><br />For us me & hubby have given up things that J cant tolerate. Going to the movies, etc. We rarely eat in restaurants but when we do its a challenge. J has a really hard time sitting still for any length of time & gets VERY antsy before we're done. In all honesty in restaurants I usually resort to showing J videos & photos on my iPhone to keep him calm. And my hubby is REALLY good at preventing meltdowns, much better than me, althoughI hate to admit it. <br /><br />Im really pretty tolerant of other peoples kids crying & fussing. It probably wont bother me unless its totally out of hand & going on for a while. <br /><br />I think whether or not its ok to take your little one everywhere really depends on the kid. Some kids are much more fussy than others & it also varies from situation to situation. But parents know their kids & should be able to know what is & isnt doable based on that.Frau Guten Taghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16653229285252138595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-77400353665900637622011-11-07T00:42:24.501-05:002011-11-07T00:42:24.501-05:00Taylor:
:) Thank you for commenting! I forgot to ...Taylor:<br />:) Thank you for commenting! I forgot to add the getting run over by kids at the store! THAT'S annoying too! <br /><br />A friend always says, "Kids are just being kids". Though this is true, again...time and place for everything. They can run around in the park or playground. Running around in stores, weaving in and out of aisles? That's also very dangerous. <br /><br />Not everyone agrees with each other's parenting styles and techniques. Some believe it is best to let children be free and learn to express themselves their own way. Yes, I believe that is great, but also think children need guidance and parents need to teach them appropriate behaviour. How else are they going to learn?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-66204841674942882302011-11-07T00:27:35.149-05:002011-11-07T00:27:35.149-05:00I agree 100% with your opinion on this matter. I ...I agree 100% with your opinion on this matter. I do not have kids myself. I respect my friends that do. But please either remove your kid at first signs of distress or don't bring them at all if you know that is what they are prone to do. I remember my parents telling me that they could not go out to eat with me when I was little, like under the age 2-3 because for some reason I would just go nuts. So they chose to just not do that for awhile because they didn't want to disturb others. In the same sense as events, I get really annoyed by parents who don't control their kids in a grocery store or the mall. Getting run over by a 5 year old who is playing tag with their siblings via the clothes racks can get really annoying. Take them to a park, play with them or something. Really, there is a reason why they are showcasing the behavior. I understand that kids aren't always perfect. I understand that parents aren't always perfect either. But the parents that just turn their heads and ignore the behavior...really??? That's why your kids are doing what they are doing!! Okay, I'll step down from the soap box. Enjoyed reading your post. :)Taylor @ Pink Heels Pink Truckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00510430596263216022noreply@blogger.com