tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post8240134310085307578..comments2024-03-18T05:14:45.515-04:00Comments on Life on Manitoulin: Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti ...and Have You Ever Heard of Funeral Cakes???Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-35103011504075763222010-01-04T15:48:48.533-05:002010-01-04T15:48:48.533-05:00Merry Christmas, happy New Year and all that. Sor...Merry Christmas, happy New Year and all that. Sorry it has taken me so long to visit your site again. <br /><br />I can so relate to this post. I'd feel the same way. But just to put it in perspective for me...be so thankful that he will watch LO at all. If I want "me" time I have to ask him to ask his mom if she will watch Ellen, because he won't. He will NOT even change her diaper. The only time he "watches" her is when he's in the house and I go out for maybe half hour to do chores. <br /><br />That said, he does take her down to visit his mom every weekday afternoon to give me about 1 1/2 hour break. So that's not too bad.Calfkeeperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12481855231233879731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-23350185869207226922009-12-23T21:09:30.178-05:002009-12-23T21:09:30.178-05:00Music, able to continue where language ends.
Plea...Music, able to continue where language ends.<br /><br />Please excuse me for not leaving much a 'trail' - yet reading.<br /><br />May you all have a wonderful and blessed Christmas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-45197971054615953742009-12-23T20:56:40.544-05:002009-12-23T20:56:40.544-05:00Haha.....your "women are like spaghetti"...Haha.....your "women are like spaghetti" comment reminded me of a very bad joke I used to tell!!!LOL<br />I'll have to email it to you though.<br />Merry Christmas!Uncivilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03165556927641960341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-33608465722569026412009-12-22T19:01:14.711-05:002009-12-22T19:01:14.711-05:00hi c- yes, the thought was there, but men really d...hi c- yes, the thought was there, but men really don't get. i would be so PO'd if my husband pulled that on me, good intentions and all. <br /><br />i've never heard of a funeral cake before. should it be shaped like a skull or a coffin or something? :) have a nice dirt nap? <br /><br />ha ha the word ver is:<br />luavacaninecolognehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07921983679558271352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-20291061632930302572009-12-22T16:44:29.008-05:002009-12-22T16:44:29.008-05:00I'm with Cherry on the Funnel Cakes. And now ...I'm with Cherry on the Funnel Cakes. And now I want to see the Funeral Cake she made!<br /><br />The thought that it didn't occur to your husband to change L.O.'s diaper tells me that he has compartmentalized her care into "Your JOB". People like this can be heard saying they are 'babysitting' their own children. It's not babysitting. It's parenting. He just needs a little paradigm shift to realize that he can and should do these things as well.<br /><br />I read once about a couple where they were both unhappy, and part of it was because the wife felt like she had to do everything. Yet when she backed off a bit on having things her way, and let him do things around the house as well, things were much better for both of them. He didn't feel so excluded, and she didn't feel so put-upon. I found that I had been doing some of that in my own marriage. And when I backed off and let him get to things, he would. Not as soon as me, often, but it would happen. So maybe if you had waited another 1/2 hour, he would have changed her diaper. And maybe not. He may feel like he does the man jobs and you do the woman jobs. Might be worth a conversation when she's asleep sometime and you're both feeling rested and good.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00653383372182667361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-30102139385266333292009-12-21T21:07:15.882-05:002009-12-21T21:07:15.882-05:00First off... I have to say I thought the title of ...First off... I have to say I thought the title of your post said something about funnel cakes so I kept looking for something about funnel cakes. I need to read more carefully!<br /><br />Second - yay hubby for the Indian food.. YUM! Great Birthday Dinner!<br /><br />and Third - this is a tough one. I KNOW I'd react the same way. I often do. I say thank you for Eric doing something and then I complain when it's not done the way I'd do it (aka, the right way). I'm a perfectionist to a fault, I have expectations which need to be managed VERY carefully, and I know what I want, when I want it, and how I want it all to happen.<br /><br />I do not do well with surprises so this probably wouldn't have gone over well with me either. :-)<br />I'm kinda surprised he told you at all. At least there is that! he knew he had to at least warn you.<br /><br />This marriage thing is a bunch of lessons in itself, I can't imagine how its going to go throwing parenting on top of it all. Communication, patience and a whole lot of deep breaths.Cherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13329087078358950801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-53805574609017891862009-12-21T13:23:42.169-05:002009-12-21T13:23:42.169-05:00Patti:
LOL! You know, I was just going to call you...Patti:<br />LOL! You know, I was just going to call you last week to see how you were doing!! We NEED to get together soon! I think the last time we got together was at Hubby's birthday! LOL...and we live so far apart! Not!<br /><br />Funny you should write what you did. I *just* had that conversation with my husband this morning! I was in the shower and when I got out, LO was awake. I asked him if he had changed her diaper and given her vitamins to her. Nope. I then kind of grumbled something about "Why is it so hard to do things that should be automatic?" LOL! I guess it's automatic and common sense for women and not really something men would think about. Then I said something like "It wouldn't occur to you that she'd need a diaper change after sleeping for 12 hrs through the night? Surely she'd have a wet diaper." I thought it wouldn't have to wait for me to get out of the shower so I could do it. <br /><br />It's just little every day things like that that just don't make sense to me. Then I feel like the worst wife in the world for sounding like a bee-with-an-itch. I just wish there were some magic potion we could all drink so we could understand each other. I guess it's called years and years of being married to each other :) Hopefully one day we'll get things right. LOL!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-34840234903609399882009-12-21T10:52:47.724-05:002009-12-21T10:52:47.724-05:00Wow... We are definately living parallel lives!! O...Wow... We are definately living parallel lives!! On one hand we are happy that they've thought of us, but on the other we are pissed that we are expected to ALWAYS pick up their slack, and let's face it, at times there is A LOT of slack to picked up! I love my husband too, but at times I just don't understand his way of thinking. We often argue when I ask him to do things that I normally do and don't even think about. But to him, it's a big deal to have to clean up the table after a meal, or bring in wood for the night. I often feel as though I'm being taken advantage of, even though I know that's not how he is trying to make me feel. Men are just very different from women, and I think women tend to take on way too much responsibilty. We should let our husbands take care of the kids more often. Who cares if they don't do it the same as we do, as long as the kids are in one piece when we return, that's all that matters! I guess we just need to think more like men!! LOL... Good luck to you C! and Merry Christmas to your family from mine.Patti McKnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-65424754832580006262009-12-21T09:40:28.152-05:002009-12-21T09:40:28.152-05:00J:
That is soooo true! :) Men *are* really good at...J:<br />That is soooo true! :) Men *are* really good at concentrating on one thing and getting it done. Women are good a multitasking. <br /><br />My husband must think I'm neurotic because I was happy that he organized a get together for me, and then the next minute I was in tears because I said that I shouldn't HAVE TO clean like a mad woman and get everything ready for my own party! LOL! Not to generalize here, but men don't get it. He probably thought "Man! I can never do anything right" or "Nothing I do is good enough for her!". Seriously, I didn't think I was being unreasonable though. I mean, I was taking care of the baby all day, hadn't had any time to rest, we went out and bought a van (okay, he redeemed himself there! LOL!). I didn't have enough time to get the house ready for a party. He told me just hours before people arrived that I was having a surprise party!! I need advance notice if I'm going to have to spend a day cleaning! LOL! Better yet, if it's a surprise party for me, I shouldn't have to do everything! LOL! I think he just assumed that inviting people was "throwing a party". The thought was there. I guess I should be happy. I am. I am happy he thought to invite people and that he thought of me.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-31621564260395040162009-12-21T00:19:53.168-05:002009-12-21T00:19:53.168-05:00One thing about women, I kinda feel like we get a ...One thing about women, I kinda feel like we get a ton of stuff done. I work from home, so I can work and do dishes and plan dinner and go to the grocery store and pick up Maya and walk the dog...of course, my job truly and honestly isn't that demanding. But I wonder if it would even occur to most men to do all of those things if they were working from home? One thing about men, they are much better at focusing on ONE THING, and getting it done much better. My focus is for shit. Probably because I'm doing all of those other things.<br /><br />I remember when Maya was about 4 1/2 months old. I had gone back to work, and Ted was home with Maya. My best friend had just moved from Washington State to a town about 30 minutes from me in Philadelphia. She called and said she had some spare time. My boss said, there's nothing going on, take the rest of the day off. I told my friend I would go shopping with her. I called Ted, and he said, "Oh good, you can take Maya with you, and I can go have lunch with my friend." I started crying. He just didn't understand that I had not had one single minute since she was born when I wasn't either with her or at work. I wanted some down time with my friend, where I wouldn't have to worry about feeding or diapers or naps or any of that. <br /><br />To his credit, the second I started crying, he realized his mistake, and insisted that I go with my friend. Yes, he was feeling cooped up with her, being home while I was at work. He had just forgotten the four months I was home while he was in school. Sigh.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00653383372182667361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-2060981273299582552009-12-20T23:32:13.363-05:002009-12-20T23:32:13.363-05:00Jackie:
LOL! Ohhhh nooooo! When your husband sees ...Jackie:<br />LOL! Ohhhh nooooo! When your husband sees my husband, I'll hear all about it! ;) He'll say, "Honey! Why did you have to blog about that!?!" LOL! <br /><br />Oh, and then your husband will be giving me the gears the next time my vehicle breaks down in front of the grocery store! LOL! ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09251507898309184477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22578035.post-67472903724098102592009-12-20T22:34:31.969-05:002009-12-20T22:34:31.969-05:00i am making my hubby read this, it is sooo true!i am making my hubby read this, it is sooo true!Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07265544278773925286noreply@blogger.com