Sunday, January 06, 2013

This Year I Resolve to NOT Be Super Mom



If there's one thing I learned in 2012, it's that harmony and balance cannot be achieved by trying to do it all. All the time. Right away.

As women, wives, and moms, daughters, and friends, we often strive to do everything for everyone and be everything for everyone. Working full-time jobs, being full-time parents, handling all things household and domestic and then some just isn't always realistic. We do it, but with a cost. We pay the price mentally, physically, and emotionally.  At least this is what I've experienced in the past year.

In 2013, I am not going to try to be Super Mom. Instead, I will do the best I can for my family, but not kill myself trying to be perfect. I'm not perfect. I'm only human. I can only do so much in a 24 hour period.

If the living room isn't spotless before bedtime, it can wait until the morning. If laundry is folded but not put away, it will still be there the next day to put away. I don't want Little one's earliest memories of me being obsessed and overwhelmed with household chores and work.

I want Little One 's memories to be of the time we spend together as a family.

This year, I resolve to not resolve. Instead, I am making some goals to be the best I can be...without being too hard on myself.

New Year's Goals for 2013 :
  • Be more patient 
  • Be kinder to those who test my patience 
  • Before responding to something I don't agree with or something that angers me, sleep on it or revisit the situation later on 
  • Listen more and speak less 
  • Make more time for myself 
  • Learn that it's okay to say NO to people 
  • Establish a routine with Hubby and Little One for putting things in their proper places once we're done using them. This way, nothing gets piled up in a big mess for me to clean up later.
  • Make sure we get in as much family time as possible. This may mean making Sunday (or at least part of Sunday) "Family Day"

Here are a few quotes I'd like to share:
 In between goals is a thing called life, that has to be lived and enjoyed.” - Sid Caesar
 Remember that happiness is a way of travel, not a destination.” - Roy Goodman
 Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.” - Vince Lombardi
 A mind is like a parachute, it doesn’t work if it isn’t open.” - Frank Zappa
 Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation. Your character is what you really are while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” - Dale Carnegie
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

This post was inspired by a phone conversation I had with my lovely friend, Laurel. If you don't already follow @optimom on Twitter, you'll definitely want to do so now :) Great to interact with and so inspiring. Visit her blog here http://opti-mom.ca/

11 comments:

Cherry said...

Love love love this.

Guess what? The laundry can wait even longer than the next day. I know. I've tested it. A lot.

Fab Frugal Mama said...

You you expressed a lot if what I've been thinking and feeling lately. Well-said, my friend! :)

Fab Frugal Mama said...

Oops, I meant "a lot *of* what I've been feeling lately...darn iPhone auto-correct! Lol BTW, I think you're an extremely patient person! Happy New Year!

Janet Dubac said...

I totally agree with you Christine. Take a step back and relax. Trying to finish everything at once will just drain your energy, stress you out, and will definitely ruin your day. Keep things as organized as you can and do things at your own pace. Take it easy and you will be surprised of what you can do. :)

Wendy S said...

Great resolutions! I need to take more time for myself too!

Christine McN said...

Cherry:
LOL! Okay, THIS is one of the reasons I love you so much!! xo

Christine McN said...

Fab Frugal Mama:
:) Many people *think* I'm patient. My husband and four year old daughter will say otherwise! ;) xoxo

Christine McN said...

Janet:
I'm printing out your comment and taping it to my computer monitor for reference ;)

Christine McN said...

Wendy:
Happy New Year, my friend!

Little Miss Kate said...

Making time for yourself is so important. So is getting hubby and DD to pitch in with cleaning etc. I like things organized a certain way, so it can be hard for me to delegate, but it is important for my sanity

caninecologne said...

I agree with you C! And by the way, I think you are a terrific mom!!!!

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