I had a conversation with two girlfriends of mine about work, marriage, motherhood, and our roles as women in these three areas. Friend #1 said that she refuses to ever become a slave to her family and will never give up her freedom as an independent woman. Friend #1 is full of life, spontaneous, carefree and eventhough she's in her early 30's, she can still pick up and go whenever she wants and do what she wants since she just picks up work whenever and wherever she needs it. She's a self-procclaimed party girl and scoffs at anything considered even remotely 'domestic'. I love her zest for life and her ability to do whatever she wants because she's not tied to anything. She reminds me of the me I was in my early 20s. I loved that me! I love the me I am today, but the former me was crazy and fun...just like friend #1!
Anyway, an argument almost ensued, since friend #2 became offended. She felt that friend #1 was giving a personal attack on her life choices since she became a wife and mother.
In all fairness, I think we were all a little defensive. Friend #1 said that she couldn't understand how anyone would want to get 'tied down' and have to slave over a husband and family. She boasted about how she never cooks and how much easier it is to get a nice guy to take her out for a meal than to have to cook and wash dishes afterward. Though she enjoys hosting dinner parties, most of the food she serves is store-bought or catered. Friend #2 was still fuming at this point. She thought friend #1 was belittling her decisions and choice of lifestyle. We did find out one common thread through the heated debate though. Both women didn't cook homemade meals. Friend#2 said that she is so busy with running after her babies and trying to keep the house in order, that she doesn't have any time to waste in the kitchen to prepare meals. Most meals are fresh...from a box, bag or can. She swears by frozen meals that just get popped into an oven for 30 mins and she has the pizza delivery on speed-dial.
I totally understand how chaotic, hectic and crazy things get for both my friends. I'm a little like friend#1 and a little like friend#2. I'm not single and I can't just take off whenever I want. I am married, but we don't have kids of our own yet. I do know how exhausting things get with everything that goes on with having a family and people who depend on you. We have international students who live with us and that in itself is very tiring sometimes. Trying to juggle teaching, curriculum planning, maintaining the house, the garden, helping hubby with the wood business and the farm (though, he does the bulk of things)...and having to think of what to cook...that can all get a little crazy sometimes. I totally agree that a woman has no time to be slaving for hours in the kitchen. Hubby's used to homecooked meals and I love cooking. Because I don't have tons of time (I also tutor after supper), I've devised a slew of meal plans and recipes that don't take up a lot of time. I love effortless (yet seemingly painstaking to prepare) meals! To me, that's impressive.
At Baby Bro's girlfriend's parents' house, his girlfriend's mom made a dish called a "Wife Saver". It's a breakfast casserole that is super easy to make and not time consuming at all...hence the name! I'm going to post the recipe so that everyone can enjoy it. Real women CAN cook. All we need is a few tricks up our sleeves to make things easier and quicker. Even the busiest of us can spare a few minutes to make a dish. This said, I always keep a family sized frozen lasagna in the freezer for those nights when I'm too exhausted to cook! ;)
I didn't get a photo of just the Wife Saver, but you can sort of see it in the above photo. It's on the counter in a big dish. Baby Bro's girlfriend is hovering over it.
WIFE SAVER RECIPE (breakfast casserole)Ingredients:
16 slices white bread crust removed
Canadian bacon sliced thin
Slices of sharp cheddar
1tsp dry mustard
1/4 cup onion
1/4 cup green pepper
2 tsp Worcesteshire sauce
3 cups milk
1/4 lb butter
Crushed Corn Flakes.
Directions:Butter a 9x13 glass baking dish, and line with 8 pieces of bread , add pieces to cover the bottom.Cover bread with bacon, lay cheese on top and cover with more bread to make like a sandwich.In a bowl beat eggs, salt pepper, add everything else except butter and Corn Flakes.Pour over bread, cover and let stand in fridge overnight. In the morning melt butterand pour over top. Cover with cereal. Bake uncovered 1 hour at 350. Let sit for 10 minutes before serving.
1) My student was extremely well behaved.
2) The apple trees were covered with delicate, white, fragrant blossoms.
3) A new batch of students are arriving in July.
4) The kittens are growing and they're healthy and strong.
5) It was so beautiful and breezy out today.
6) My friend, Dina called and she, her hubby, and their baby are coming for a visit in 2 weeks!
7) I made homemade tomato sauce this afternoon.
8) My parents came to visit us this evening.
9) I have a meeting for the library board.
10) This is my first "free" night in a while so I can watch TV!
I'm kinda bummed because...
1) We usually go for a day of excellent behaviour and several days of not listening.
2) Soon the apple blossoms will be gone. Oh, and the tent caterpillars are out now. Grrrr!
3) I kinda got comfortable with just having the one student for now. I know more students = good for hubby and me though. I guess I'd better start pumping myself up and getting energized for a busy summer!
4) Mama cat has started moving the kittens around the house and hiding them. They were no longer in the box in our bedroom. I was in the office and heard crying coming from behind the desk. Sure enough, she had stashed the little ones there. What fun. I can only imagine what the next few weeks are going to be like, since the kittens will be able to walk and run soon!
5) It was also stinkin' hot!!! Soooooooo hot that I had to open all the windows and turn on some of the fans! Grrrrrr! I was hoping I wouldn't have to do that until mid-late June!!
6) I'm just so excited to see Dina and her family. At the same time, I'm sad because we only get to see each other once or twice a year now that I've moved to the Island :(
7) Of course if you make tomato sauce, you're gonna have pasta, right?? We ate spaghetti tonight and I really wanted to eat something light. What can ya do when you live in a house with only men?
8) We didn't have much of a visit. Dad helped me organize my garden in front of the house. He brought me some hostas, day lilies, firecrackers and other plants. In exchange, I gave him some ferns for his garden.
9) My meeting's tomorrow. I thought it was today.
10) We can't find the remote control for our TV. I find it really bizarre and extremely irritating that the remote is lost. How does a remote control get lost?? It doesn't make sense! Grrrrrrr!
Lots and lots of pies!!! You can smell all the yummy goodness as soon as you enter the building.
These things scare me. I'm sure I used to love them as a kid, but I haven't had one in over 20 something years. Seriously! I'm sometimes tempted, but every time I think I want one, I remember that I broke a tooth on one of those babies when I was a kid!!
On our way home from K-town on Sunday, we had lunch at Baby Bro's girlfriend's parents' farm. I've never seen a farm like this before!!!
After a long drive home, we arrived on the Island around 2 AM! We were exhausted. P1 had school and had to get up for the school bus at 7AM. I also had our Island Singers practice in the evening. I was beat!
Look who was waiting for me to return though! Sweet!
Soft baby cheeks,
Cute little smiles
Accompanied by precious cooing sounds,
Big, bright eyes,
Little murmurs of contentment,
Funny sleepy sounds,
Tiny hands that grip so tightly,
The smallest feet that kick so strongly,
The look of trust and comfort in those twinkling eyes...
It's amazing to see how much love one can feel for a precious little baby.
If you've been reading my blog for a while, you'll also know how much I love the gals at Pinks & Blues. Not only are they brilliant, dynamic, friendly, super cool, wonderful ladies, but they also have all the neatest things for moms, dads, kids, grandparents, and pets :)
The Pinks and Blues gals currently have a contest on, so don't miss out! This time, they're giving away a Dooney and Burke handbag and they're also tossing in a bottle of Dream Angels Heavenly Eau de Parfum by Victoria's Secret.
Go on and enter the contest :) What a cute way to usher in the Summer!! (Men, you can enter the contest too! What a great way to win even more brownie points with your wife/girlfriend/significant other!!)
Now for another plug for my familia!!! My sista-in-law's sista painted one of these babies for our little nephew's baptism gift. Her kids' paintings are really taking off right now! Her animal paintings are super hot...especially in the Ottawa region! This is not the first time I've talked about Melanie's paintings. I mentioned her baby farm animal line of paintings last time. This time she's got a new line out and it's her safari series! What a great way to add a splash of colour to a nursery, kid's bedroom or play room! Get your Melanie Bailey Creation today!
I am soooooooooo excited! I think it's really neat how he had to go to an auction to find this little treasure for me. I bet Hubby is glad that it doesn't take much to make me happy! LOL!
I'll be heading to K-town for my little nephew's baptism this weekend, but I am having a difficult time tearing myself away from the kittens! LOL!
Lastly, a pic for Lotus. Back on the farm with the bovine babies. See the spotted calf? Cute, eh?
My mom saw this outfit on the rack and I refused to even look at it. It looked like only a 12 year old could fit in it! After much harrassing, I succumbed and I hate to say this, but mom was right! The outfit looked great on. I'd have to wear a wrap or a cover of some sort and I need to shorten and hem the pants just a week bit.
I got this dress in a chocolate brown. Mom argued with me about the colour, but and said I dress like the "Crypt Keeper"! She loves bright purples and pinks, whereas I am more subdued.
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City girl moves to the country, falls in love, and marries a farmer. She tries to incorporate her city ways with her new country lifestyle and blogs to keep in touch with friends, family & students who live far, far away :) Can this city girl go country? Watch as she learns all sorts of exciting things about life on the farm and in a small rural community. *UPDATE* We are now parents! Our baby girl was born on Nov. 11, 2008 (at 28 weeks gestation- 12 weeks premature, but she's quite the trooper)!!!