We had some speeches after supper at our wedding. Thank you for all your wonderful speeches, everyone! You guys made me cry (again)! John happened to mention that it was 13 months and some odd days since we had even met. I think that may have generated some comments and it made me think a little...
Is knowing someone for a little over a year too short to know someone enough to get married? I think not. The reason I say this is that I think that love has no time limits, boundaries, restraints, expiry dates, etc. I believe that if it's the right person, you just KNOW that you're meant to be together.
I was with someone for FIVE years and even up to the end of our relationship it wasn't certain that we were meant to be together. There were so many doubts and what ifs. With J, I NEVER wonder or question or doubt. I just KNOW. I know people who have been with their partners for almost 10 years and are still not married or engaged. If it's the right person, then why wait? J's mom told him when he was thinking of proposing, that if I'm the right person then don't wait. (Gosh, I love that woman!!) I think that if you're with someone for almost a decade and still don't know if you want to get married to that person, then there's a problem. If both people are happy with their situation, then that's a different story. I don't believe one NEEDS to marry the person they're with. As long as both people are happy, that's all that counts...but if you love someone and want to spend the rest of your life together, then why not?
Anyway, that's just my opinion :) There's never a too soon if you know it's right for you! With J, I just know :)
NEWS UPDATE!!!
One of my really good friends, Dina and her hubby Gavin just had a baby boy this morning!! Congrats to you both and welcome to the world, Baby K!! Can't wait to meet you! xoxo
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It always irrirtated me when one of my friends who got engaged after a short period of time told me smugly 'When you know, you know.' and then it happened to me. E&I were engaged after 8 months and it's true.
What Stephen said. I also was always annoyed when my friends did this...especially since I had been in a 4 year relationship that I had known was right, but had then blown up in my face. I figured if I could be wrong after 4 years...how could anyone be right after less than one year.
But I think the older you get the more you learn about who and what you are looking for...and even though I don't beleive I was wrong to have thought Mr.4 years and I were in love and could have a future together...I failed to recognize how young we were and that I had not been wrong because I had misunderstood the connection between us, but rather because the timing had been wrong.
When it is the right person, at the right time, you can know very quickly!! Adam and I were together just under 2 years when we got married, and just over 1 year when we got engaged!!!
Yep! I agree with you both! Upon one of my many breakups with my ex, I told my brother, "Maybe it's just not the right time for us." To this, he retorted "Chris, if it's the right person then there isn't a wrong time." I don't doubt that there were feelings involved, but that we weren't in a place in our lives to have such a strong commitment like marriage. It wasn't right for us. Anyway, the bottom line: if it's right, you just know it.
Jill, you are so right about being older and more mature too. I think that when John and I met, we both knew what we wanted in life and in a partner. Everything just fit so perfectly. How cliche is that! LOL
hey cris. me and my husband met and six months later got engaged and three months after that we got married. i don't think there's a too soon if you know that the person your with is somoene you want to spend the rest of your life with. it may sound cliche but it's true, you just 'know' where sometimes you can be with someone for what seems like forever and still don't know.
Nope, definately not too short! I've been with my boyfriend for 12 years (count them...TWELVE YEARS) and he still hasn't popped the question.
By the way things sound, you and your husband are old enough and mature enough to know what you want in life and in a partner. I say it does'nt matter if you got married so soon and not waited long to get married. Good for the both of you to know and recognize a good thing when you've found it! Congrats again!