Haven't posted in a while. Things have been rather hectic. With the wedding 2 months away and a whole lotta other stuff going on, it's been tough to blog on a regular basis this week.
Things to note for this week:
1) A person very dear to me is going through a rough time. She is in an abusive relationship- mentally, emotionally, and physically. I've spoken to her a few times about this and she knows how bad the situation is...but she keeps going back to the guy!!! Everyone who loves her is torn by this. It's really hard to see someone you love go through such a horrible, vicious cycle. How to help out??? I know a person can only get help once that person is ready, but in such a case perhaps this person can't get herself out on her own? I'm at a loss. Don't know what to do and fear for her safety and mental well being.
2) My sister-in-law-to-be is giving J and me one of the most precious wedding gifts ever. I'll keep you in suspense a little while longer so you keep reading my blog! (and no, she isn't giving us a little niece or nephew!!)
3) My back's sore from splitting and stacking firewood. Pretty soon I'll be learning how to wire cedar rail fences.
4) Business at the inn is picking up again, which means it's officially Spring. Summer is going to be crrrrazy busy with tourists and I may have 4 students arriving in July.
5) Made a kickass pasta salad for supper tonight. As usual, no measuring though. 2 stalks chopped celery, 1 green pepper diced, 1 onion diced, elbow/macaroni noodles (cooked, of course), 1 can flaked tuna, low fat mayo, oregano, basil, thyme. Blend all ingredients. Fast, easy, yummy. I was so tired from all the work today so rather than whipping up a labour-intensive supper like I always do (last night was scalloped potatoes, roast, salad, homemade strawberry/rhubarb compote), I opted for a less than 30 min meal. Just kidding about the labour intensive suppers! True, I did cook scalloped potatoes, roast and homemade fresh fruit compote, but....I cheat!! I use my slow cooker most of the time! (Except for the fruit, which was simmered in a saucepan). Slow cookers....cook all day while the cook's away! Love it! :)
Have a great weekend everyone. Happy Passover! Happy Easter! Happy Weekend!
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Sorry about your friend. In my work, I meet a lot of women who are victims of abuse. The cycle of abuse is a wicked one, and very hard for a women to break free from. I hope your friend does nto have kids.
All you can do is be there for her when she needs you. Internet sites like www.shelternet.ca can help her make a safety plan if she leaves him, and needs to ensure she is safe. As you already know, breaking free from an abusive relationship is something that women cannot do successfully until they are ready.
If you think she is ready but needs help, shelternet can help you. You can also have her call an assualted woman's helpline. In Toronto it is (416) 863-0511. Not sure if your friend is here, or the Island, or Montreal, or elsewhere.
THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH, JILL! That info you passed on is very useful. This person lives in Montreal so it's hard for me being so far from her at a time like this. This relationship she has with this abusive guy is tearing her whole family apart. Luckily she has no kids with him. (Thank goodness!) It is still hard for her to just leave though. He hits her, she leaves, he calls, he apologizes and she gies back...then the same thing happens again and again.
I love this person so much so it really upsets me to see this happen to her. I can't stand how horribly this makes her feel and yet she goes back all the time. I wish and hope she has the strength to finally break free and leave him for good.
It's so hard to see someone you care for go through crap like this. On one hand, some may say that it's her fault since she is the one making the decision to go back all the time and she keeps putting herself in these situations, but on the other hand I do feel like it's a very psychological thing and it's an illness almost- where she is addicted to him or the idea of him. I don't know why, since if she were to weigh the pros and cons, the cons would surely outweigh the pros.
Thanks again, Jill. Luv ya! xo